“In other words, the results of genuine ‘crazy wisdom’ are always positive and visible. When a teacher uses an extreme approach that is rooted in compassion, the result is spiritual growth, not trauma. Trauma is a sure sign that the ‘crazy wisdom’ behavior was missing the wisdom to see what would truly benefit the student, the compassion that puts the student’s interest first, or both.”
“Above all, if someone is being harmed, the safety of the victim comes first. This is not a Buddhist principle. This is a basic human value and should never be violated….In these circumstances, it is not a breach of samaya to bring painful information to light. Naming destructive behaviors is a necessary step to protect those who are being harmed or who are in danger of being harmed in the future, and to safeguard the health of the community.” —-Mingyur Rinpoche (2017)
“I’m very sorry to know that you have presented all of this to various sources and you haven’t had the support that you needed and you should be heard. It’s really disappointing to know that these structures are not in place in such situations. But understandably, because of course he knows he’s guilty. So from the Benchen Monastery, the full defense mechanism is up for him and he’s trying everything to to rescue himself in one way or another. But in the long run, I think that is not going to be possible. So the truth always has a way of making itself known and yes let’s see how everything unfolds but certainly bring it to come up as attention.” –Ma Tara Palmo (2020)
“To actively and deliberately try to destroy a sincere follower’s pure and heartfelt connection and devotion to a Vajrayana guru, after taking empowerments with them, is one of the worse spiritual/Vajrayana “crimes” someone can commit. Leading to irreparable loss and damages.” –Adele Tomlin (2026)
Introduction
Some of these quotes above are from a 2017 Lion’s Roar article by Mingyur Rinpoche of Tergar Monastery, whose main guru is 12th Khentin Tai Situpa. As a survivor of sexual misconduct and harassment of a well-known Karma Kagyu teacher, who took the difficult (yet courageous step to speak out about it to Mingyur Rinpoche, as he encouraged us to do), reading his words initially gave me a sense of solace and understanding. However, as I have directly experienced, there are words and there are actions. And when they do not match, the survivor is left feeling lost, excluded, unsupported and even worse abandoned and cast out by the teachers (and their community).
Due to serious and persistent incidents of online defamation, impersonation, bullying and harassment (from 2020 onwards). In particular, from June 2025 (in the form of an anonymous person’s continuing online smear campaign, bullying and false accusations targeting me as liar, crazy, bad comparing me to excrement and porn stars etc., ), as well as in-person verbal harassment and attempted intimidation attending Gyalton Rinpoche’s teachings in Asia and Europe 2025.
Up until now, I have not released this clear corroboratory evidence, nor lots of other supporting evidence I have, to respect her privacy. However, as she had no consideration for, and completely ignored my privacy and permission to stay at Sherab Ling monastery peacefully, and caused unnecessary distress to myself and others there. Worse, that her actions then led to a catastrophic chain of events (for me and others) whereby my personal safety was put at risk, as was that of a close relative. And my devoted and sincere connection with Gyalton Rinpoche was almost destroyed by it, as was my permission (and sincere wish) to attend future teachings with Gyalton Rinpoche (and 12th Tai Situpa), with a draconian “ban” and vexatious and defamatory legal action in India (after I had left) in my absence with no opportunity to defend myself from the false accusations. They also gave 2 INR lakh to file it (around 1500 GBP), what a total waste of money that could have been spent on a translation or Dharma project!
Thus, it has become a matter of urgency to disclose her audio messages, which show clearly her not only supporting me about the misconduct case, but actively encouraging me to speak to her own teacher, Mingyur Rinpoche, to whom she also shared her own experience of sexual harassment by the same teacher (SN) and how she wanted to warn and protect other women from harm, as I did. She also informed Tai Situpa, as I did. Hopefully, this will at least show for the record that this is not an isolated incident, but a pattern of conduct.[1]
For the record, I do not have any ill-will to any of these named people, despite how destructive, ill-intended and unnecessary their actions have been, motivated by malice, jealousy and self-serving ambition. One thing seems to unite them though, their interest in me and my life but also a complete inability or wish to see any positive quality in me, my work, study, practice and translation of Buddha Dharma, and the need to humiliate, demean and diminish them, which is strange indeed, and suggests that darker (demonic) forces are at work. It certainly seemed like that when Tara was shouting at me to “get out” and “no-one wanted me there”!
Below, I first explain the latest incidents of bullying and harassment by Ma Tara Palmo during the last week of staying alone at Sherab Ling guesthouse, and how my reporting it to the General Secretary of Sherab Ling, led to a rather depressing and unnecessary response of being banned at any teachings events of 12th Tai Situpa and Gyalton Rinpoche without any investigation, discussion, due process or attempts at mediation/conciliation. Then, I go into detail about the messages Tara sent me in January-February 2020 and her speaking to Mingyur Rinpoche and 12th Tai Situpa, and encouraging and praising me for doing so too.
In the footnotes, I share more detail about the recent vexatious, false and defamatory legal action commenced by Titi Dolma and Thinley Topden filed unlawfully in my absence when I had left India, which included screenshots of an anonymous blogger as evidence, and “revenge porn” of private photos said to be of myself, without my knowledge and consent. Such are the low and vindictive levels such people are willing to stoop. What kind of people would even think an anonymous, polemical blog whose sole aim is to defame and harass and spread derogatory content about me (comparing me to excrement), is worthy of belief, never mind as admissible evidence in a legal action? The answer to that says it all.
Three incidents of unprovoked bullying, harassment and threats to kill at Sherab Ling Monastery to lone woman and subsequent authoritarian punishment for raising it as an issue with the Lama Dragpa, General Secretary: 6th-14th March 2026
From 14th February -15th March 2026, as I reported, I had an auspicious and blessed time staying at the Sherab Ling monastery guesthouse and was able to complete some new, original research and translations, in particular the first translated outline of 8th Tai Situpa’s Collected Works. One of my main purposes for being there was also to attend the Losar and birthday events at which Gyalton Rinpoche was attending, as a sincere and devoted follower. I spent my own time and money to go to India from SE Asia, and there is no point my doing that if I did not feel any real devotion.
There had been no incidents during the main Losar events (15th – 28th February) and the guesthouse had kindly given me permission to stay there another two weeks until 15th March. My registration to attend the Discovering Buddha Within in Delhi by Damien Jampa, was also accepted without objection, and all seemed to be going well.
Yet, for some unknown reason, Tara decided to verbally harass (in a hostile manner) me twice during my last week while staying there peacefully alone in my room, venturing out to do kora, get food and doing research on 8th Tai Situpa. [1] The first time (6th March in the monastery cafe) as it was not too serious, I let it go, told the monastery guesthouse staff and asked them not to take any action.
Informing Lama Dragpa, General Secretary of Sherab Ling monastery
However, even though my stay at the guesthouse had been extended, and they had accepted my registration to attend the Discovering Buddha Within in Delhi, instead of responding with genuine concern, empathy, and compassion and saying he would investigate and call a meeting about it, Lama Dragpa issued a swift letter on 17th March with several false and defamatory accusations based on hearsay/gossip, his personal negative opinion (about the White Tara artwork and flower garden and my writings about Gelug sectarianism and Dalai Lama), and draconian, punitive action summarily banning me from any future teachings not only with Gyalton Rinpoche but any Palpung centre, with zero in-person discussion about any of it.
Due to the lack of fair and neutral discussion, I reminded Lama Dragpa that Tara, and another woman staying at Sherab Ling guesthouse at that time who is the daughter of a long-time follower of Tai Situpa) had also complained about SN to them, and that it was negligent that teachers such as Mingyur Rinpoche, Lama Tenam and 12th Tai Situpa had not acted on this information and stopped SN. That they had not listened to women like Tara and myself, and that had caused myself and other women significant trauma and loss of faith.
In fact, in 2023, to add insult to injury, SN was invited as special guest of honour to 12th Tai Situpa’s 70th birthday party. How’s that for clearly showing women their experiences and concerns count for absolutely NOTHING? Perhaps if they had listened and tried to resolve these incidents to mutual satisfaction, things would be very different today? More on this another time…..
Tara Palmo: Informing 12th Tai Situpa and Mingyur Rinpoche in January and February 2020
As you can read and hear below, it was Tara herself who after sending me many messages of support and encouragement regarding our speaking about what happened with SN abandoned me when I needed her support the most after we both complained about SN to Tai Situpa and Mingyur Rinpoche (in 2019 and 2020 at the Kagyu Monlam), and started spreading false and malicious rumours about me, after her complaints (like mine) “fell on deaf ears” as we say. Even accusing me of moving my hips suggestively when we all had a public audience with Mingyur Rinpoche at the Tergar monastery, Bodh Gaya 2020. She seemed infuriated or jealous by it, even though I was fully clothed, and no-one else was noticing or getting annoyed about it.
Ma Tara told me (see message of 6th February 2020) how she supported me 100 percent and had reported her experiences to 12th Tai Situpa, Mingyur Rinpoche and to Jetsunma Tenzin Palmo, as I did. She told me how SN had given her his email on a slip of paper at a Rumtek Monastery event when she went up to give him a scarf, and after she emailed him and they swapped Whatsapp, he then bombarded her with romantic/sexy messages, which made her feel uncomfortable and she had to block him.<
“I’m very sorry to know that you have presented all of this to various sources and you haven’t had the support that you have needed and you should be heard. It’s really disappointing to know that these structures are not in place in such situations. But understandably, because of course he knows he’s guilty. So from the Benchen Monastery, the full defense mechanism is up for him and he’s trying everything to to rescue himself in one way or another. But in the long run, I think that’s not going to be possible.” (3rd February 2020)<
“Just stay strong and really sorry to hear about the translation and the funding and that they are creating obstacles for you at this moment. But, you know, like, we know truth will eventually come out. And in that moment, I hope everyone will just be able to have compassion with everyone who has been involved in this and see that we’re all, you know, just trying to do our best here on the path of Buddha, Dharma.” (5th February 2020)
“I know exactly what what he would do yeah exactly the techniques he would do to seduce a woman and and get her into his game and I felt very needy and possessive and which is why I did not engage or interact with him for very long at all. I felt it very important to get out of that as quickly as possible so I knew he was the person I needed to get to stay away from.”
“I think it’s also very important and so I agree 100% with everything you’re saying. It’s so unfortunate that this has all happened and that we actually even have to as women come together and speak about these things and bring it to the attention of these organizations who you would think would have been able to sort these things out themselves. But it’s just not being handled properly. It’s just always being brushed under the carpet and pretending as if nothing is really happening but it just needs to be taken care of at this moment properly.” (6th February 2020 clip 4).
Ma Tara explains to me (6th February 2020 clip 6) what happened after she spoke to Mingyur Rinpoche and how he didn’t say much:
“He didn’t say much, actually. And I think, you know, usually for them, it’s also, I guess they need to be careful as well, you know, not say too much and just leaving it up to. He just left it up to me, to decide what to do with the situation, you know. And how to how to proceed, you know, and whether to expose or these kinds of things. So I don’t know if going together, if that would make a difference. But if it’s your wish, then. He does give audiences every evening after the Monlam finishes for the day. So yeah, so I don’t know how you feel about that if you would bring your statement and the photos and yeah, if you would try to do that then that’s entirely….He just, he did not really give much advice at such more just to take care of myself and listen to my intuition and use awareness, compassion and wisdom in dealing with the situation.”
She then encourages me to meet up with her and go together to meet Mingyur Rinpoche during a public audience and bring my statement about it, and how she had told him a little about my case:
“So I fully support you because it is a very serious issue and when I did mention it to him yes I did mention also that you had contacted me and that you had photos and that you actually had engaged in a one-year relation with him and I also explained about my encounter with him that was two years before and how he had approached me and and what he had suggested. So yeah let’s let’s go together and again kind of emphasize the importance of these issues being you know made aware of if something can be done and I think it’s a good idea.”
“It is indeed a very serious matter and I thank you for for sharing everything with me that confirms everything that I experienced that time two years ago. So for the moment yeah so I shared with you now what I know, what I experienced and also I did want to help you to kind of you know maybe if you’re so to see Mingyur Rinpoche or to be there and support you and now you did get to deliver the letter, so so that’s very good.
I’m going to go into more retreat mode and like I mentioned in the pavilion I don’t really do social media a lot like I really really use it very little just when I need and so yeah I really I’m glad that if there could be something that came out of it for you like when you contacted me that you you needed to know a few things that what had happened and so I hope that my information could help you a little bit with that so and and hopefully of course that this situation will can be resolved in a way that would be a benefit to absolutely everyone involved in this and so yeah I’m just gonna be praying for that to happen…. So sending much love on your way and I really hope that again like that this would be resolved in the most most beautiful and auspicious way for absolutely everyone involved.”
Absolutely. Yet, it is clear that Mingyur Rinpoche did not give her any advice remotely similar to what he stated in the Lion’s Roar article. She also told me that she spoke to Tai Situpa about it previously too, and he had simply said “he would speak to SN about it.”
Listening to these audio messages again after six years, filled me with a sense of melancholy, I had forgotten how Tara had been full of encouragement and talking how important it was to stop it, and prevent harm to women and encouraging me to meet up with Mingyur Rinpoche (her teacher) and tell him (as she had). Yet, shortly after doing that Tara abandoned her support with emotional accusations of trying to seduce Mingyur Rinpoche (by moving my hips while seated) at a public audience at Tergar Monastery, Bodh Gaya.
Then even six years later, after I had built one of the most widely read and influential Dharma research and translations resources in the English language, she was angrily harassing and trying to forcibly kick me out of Sherab Ling monastery guesthouse (as if she is the manager/owner of it) saying no one wanted me there, due to my having reported the bullying and harassment by Damien Jampa, Titi Dolma, and Palpung Vienna in Europe 2025, due to my being a named survivor of SN. Tara also presents herself as a women’s advocate and confidante on her website, and holds retreats for women, as well as a psychological nurse. Hard to believe that someone with a background in psychology would ever label or speak to anyone like that, let alone a lone woman she knows is a survivor with such a background of trauma. Make that make sense.
In 2020, when I dropped off a translation to Sherab Ling of a long-life aspiration, I was unable to get a meeting with 12th Tai Situpa, but I gave a letter to his attendant, Lama Tenam. I also gave a letter to Mingyur Rinpoche and gave it to him in hand and asked him to read it during the Kagyu Monlam 2020. I told him briefly what it was about. However, I also never received any response from 12th Tai Situpa, nor Mingyur Rinpoche. Lama Tenam’s response, when I asked him on Whatsapp about it, was to ignore/ghost me. I messaged him a few times, but just ghosting. I even went to see Mingyur Rinpoche again, in person, a few days after I gave him the letter, and he still gave no response.
Mingyur Rinpoche’s writing not matching his response to women/survivors in person
Mingyur Rinpoche meeting people in 2025. Posted on the Yongey Mingyur Rinpoche FB page.
This lack of response, guidance or advice to myself or Ma Tara is strange considering Mingyur Rinpoche wrote this Lion’s Roar (2017) article on the importance of exposing such conduct publicly if it was persistent, multiple and showed no signs of changing, see here. In his article When a Buddhist Teacher Crosses the Line published in Lion’s Roar (2017), Mingyur Rinpoche clarified that “physical, sexual, and psychological abuse are not teaching to.”
“In that case, the violation of ethical norms needs to be addressed. If physical or sexual abuse has occurred, or there is financial impropriety or other breaches of ethics, it is in the best interest of the students, the community, and ultimately the teacher, to address the issues. Above all, if someone is being harmed, the safety of the victim comes first. This is not a Buddhist principle. This is a basic human value and should never be violated. In these circumstances, it is not a breach of samaya to bring painful information to light. Naming destructive behaviors is a necessary step to protect those who are being harmed or who are in danger of being harmed in the future, and to safeguard the health of the community.”
“In other words, the results of genuine ‘crazy wisdom’ are always positive and visible. When a teacher uses an extreme approach that is rooted in compassion, the result is spiritual growth, not trauma. Trauma is a sure sign that the ‘crazy wisdom’ behavior was missing the wisdom to see what would truly benefit the student, the compassion that puts the student’s interest first, or both.”
“Above all, if someone is being harmed, the safety of the victim comes first. This is not a Buddhist principle. This is a basic human value and should never be violated….In these circumstances, it is not a breach of samaya to bring painful information to light. Naming destructive behaviors is a necessary step to protect those who are being harmed or who are in danger of being harmed in the future, and to safeguard the health of the community.”
I do not follow Mingyur Rinpoche, and have no strong view about him as a person or teacher [1], the Lion’s Roar article also gives sound advice. But is hard to understand how such a publicly declared advocate against the abuse and deception of women, would not give some clear and helpful advice when two women independently of each other approach him about feeling harmed and “traumatised” by Sangye Nyenpa’s conduct? That trauma is ongoing for me as well, as can be seen from recent events in Asia and Europe whil attending Dharma teachings with a new teacher.
Combine that with the fact that SN was invited as special guest of honour at Tai Situpa’s 70th birthday (2023, which he did not attend) is clearly a case of ignoring women’s voices and experiences, and worse even slapping them in the face with it, by making them special guests.
If I tried to raise the matter with other women following Tai Situpa or Mingyur Rinpoche, it was met with indifference, hostility, or some irrational reaction such as “he never did that to me though.” Many of these women if you ask them if they think lies, hypocrisy, denigration and abuse of women is wrong will agree it is. But in practice, they are simply not willing to call the out on it, and/or support the women more.
Conclusion: a karmically symbolic photo to demonstrate the main issue
So moving away from specifics into more general analysis. How did this happen and why? In my view, lack of proper mature communication, guidance and leadership and female-friendly safe spaces in a predominantly patriarchal and male-centred/privileged system. Women are not being given refuge, support, guidance and help by the male teachers they follow. So they are left at a loss what to do. If they want to remain part of the community they have to literally “put up or shut up”. Women who are not willing to compromise the truth and integrity and remaining silent about it, have to leave the community. And even if they try to stay or make new connections, as I have discovered, they will be hounded out by jealous, angry people who do not have genuine love, compassion and bodhicitta for them.
If Ma Tara, or any of the teachers or people at Sherab Ling and other communities had any idea of the extent of the trauma, defamation, isolation, bullying and harassment, and the effect it had on my relations with family, friends and so on, I still experience this day for trying to warn and protect other women, one would hope the teachers and other survivors might express more loving compassion and kindness? Or is that the real issue, here a serious lack of it? In any case, to actively and deliberately try to destroy a sincere follower’s pure and heartfelt connection and devotion to a Vajrayana guru, after taking empowerments with them, is one of the worse spiritual/Vajrayana “crimes” someone can commit. Leading to irreparable loss and damages.
Or is it also a guilty conscience perhaps…..for abandoning and letting me swim among the sharks alone (after she “bottled out” when push to came to shove (as we say), or jealousy that I managed to pull myself out of the “shark pit” alive and still create Dakini Translations? Who knows. What this case clearly shows, is that women who stay silent, and stop speaking out, and act as if nothing happened (especially if they then bully and defame a fellow survivor) will be rewarded by powerful men in robes, and women who do not (like me) will be bullied, defamed, smear campaigned and excluded, while those other survivors look on (silently) for fear of being next (even though they know I am speaking truthfully).
In any case, although I (or no human being) should be excluded or banned from Buddha Dharma teachings without fair, transparent and neutral due process, it was no surprise to see the first person to greet 12th Tai Situpa yesterday, as he arrived at Kathmandu airport for a month of teachings and events there (which I have been deliberately and unfairly excluded from), was Sangye Nyenpa.
The Karmic symbolism was clear, and also a lesson again that some doors closing/being excluded from some rooms, really is a major “blessing in disguise” and protection from the Dharma protectors and Guru. Heartbreaking as it may seem. Better to get one’s heart devotion/connection broken in that way, than in a far worse way by entering the same room, with the same “usual suspects” for more of the same “usual, unaccountable, bullying and harassment conduct”.
Endnotes
[1] Another reason I decided to speak more publicly on this matter is because of an unjust, vexatious, malicious, false, defamatory and unlawful legal action recently taken in India, without proper notice and in my absence (I left India on 18th March 2026) on 20th April 2026. Also, without disclosing my full response to it, and full of false, misleading, defamatory and inadmissible statements and non-disclosure of key facts, dates, locations and so on. Thus misleading the court it was an urgent and prima facie case (such as misleadingly stating that Gyalton Rinpoche’s Delhi teachings were ongoing on 20th April, when they had finished on 17th April).
The main driving forces behind this vexatious and maliciously filed legal action were named as Titi Dolma and Thinley Topden (no idea who he is) and they even filed it in the name of Gyalton Rinpoche (without it seems getting him to sign a single page of any of it!), with signatory “Topden”. And they put 2 INR lakh to file it (around 1500 GBP), what a total waste of money that could have been spent on a translation or Dharma project!
Are they completely unaware infinite beings are dying in wars, conflicts, women and children being raped and murdered? Yet all they want to spend their time and energy on, is me a lone Buddhist woman who has managed to create one of the most widely used online Dharma research and translations resources internationally, alone and with several people trying to destroy her and it. It says it all.
If anything is defamatory and unethical towards both myself and GR that is. If it is his signature, what kind of Buddhist teacher (or even man) surrounded by attendants and monks, would resort to such a cruel and unnecessary (and waste of money and time) measure against a lone woman while she is outside India and the teachings in Delhi had finished? And not even try to sit down and mediate and resolve issues beforehand? Someone who is not interested in the truth or justice but in control, punishment and bullying and harassing women. They also shared “revenge porn” private intimate photos shared on Facebook without my knowledge or consent with other third parties, in order to try and further bully, harass and torment me. Yet a woman’s naked body is thing of beauty not shame. What is shameful (and illegal) is sharing photos of a woman online and with others to try and shame her without her knowledge or consent.
Also, why do these few administrators people still bear some massive grudge towards me for things they did and said to me behind my back? Why are they unable to see anything positive about my connection with GR? Reading their statements, and secret messages to each other, it confirms that Titi Dolma in particular, was intent on making sure everyone I came into contact with had a bad and false impression of me before (or after) I had met them. Maria of Bodhicarya Berlin being the prime example, whom Titi describes contactinmg immediately on seeing a photo of me on a walk with GR in Berlin informing her that I was a bad person and should never have been allowed to even attend a walk with him and that it was “strange” that I had. That false and defamatory information (which had not been sanctioned by GR) then led to a chain of events with Maria suddenly demanding I leave the centre without any discussion, as reported here. It seems Titi was suffering from some irrational fear, or excessive jealousy or both, but frankly someone should be guiding her away from that kind of action. It is not benefiting her, GR, Palpung Dharma Chakra and least of all me and my close friends and relatives.
[2] I have not (yet) released any of the hundred of private messages and photos of Sangye Nyenpa sent to me to respect his privacy, other than a few audio messages he sent to confirm that he did indeed give permission and oral transmission of some texts when people were lying and said he had not, see article on the loss of the Ashoka Grant funding from Khyentse Foundation.
APPENDIX
Transcript of Tara’s audio messages
All Ma Tara’s audio messages are available to inspect in a zip file: Ma Tara Palmo SNR audio and messages, which I have released in case there is any doubt about their veracity and more false and defamatory accusations against me.
29th January: “I really do want to be there for you and am so sorry to hear that all you have been through because of this as well.” But wants to meet after the Kagyu Monlam. “But all that you are saying is so important, and very saddening that you feel that you have to stay away from the Kagyu Monlam because of the Benchen monks/ This is something that should not happen to any of us. In these situations , there should be something in place that victims are heard and understood.
3rd February
Hi, Adele. Thank you for your messages. Well, I’m glad to hear that you did come by and kind of conquer any kind of fear that you might have had, you know.But I do understand that you would still not feel so safe to be there, considering that the Benchen monks have been so hostile towards you. But I think you were very brave to still come by. And…I’m also happy to know that you are choosing places that feel more safe for you at the moment and still are so inspiring to you. So I’m so happy to hear that. Indeed, SN’s name is mentioned one time during the final long life prayers of the day when we come to the long life-prayers his name is actually mentioned but it’s it is together with the rest of the Kagyu lineage holders so so his name is mentioned there one time I don’t know who has written it actually And I think your message might have been recording a little bit longer, so I didn’t get the end of that, what you were saying about Tai Situ and he has written it and so on.
But yeah, I absolutely support you in speaking to His Holiness Karmapa about all of this when he comes back. He is definitely one that should be knowing about all of this. And yeah, I’m very sorry to know that you have presented all of this to various sources and you haven’t had the support that you have needed and you should be heard. It’s really disappointing to know that these structures are not in place in such situations. But understandably, because of course he knows he’s guilty. So from the Benchen Monastery, the full defense mechanism is up for him and he’s trying everything to to rescue himself in one way or another. But in the long run, I think that’s not going to be possible.
So the truth always has a way of making itself known and yeah let’s see how everything unfolds but certainly certainly bring it to come up as attention. yeah so i hope i hope you’re still uh feeling strong and uh yeah having all the inspiration that you need from the Ningma Monlam, and we will we can meet after the Kagyu Monlam is finishing for me it’s like i really have all my mind here at the moment you know also trying to stay balanced with so many people uh it’s like i hardly have the time to eat and then rest a little bit before we’re back there so it’s it’s really the best for me to meet after so yeah so let’s get in touch when the monlam is finished.”
5th February 2020
[Talks about meeting up after the Kangyur Procession]. So sending you much love from for now until we meet. And, yeah, just stay strong and really sorry to hear about the translation and the funding and that they are creating obstacles for you at this moment. But, you know, like, we know truth will eventually come out. And in that moment, I hope everyone will just be able to have compassion with everyone who has been involved in this and see that we’re all, you know, just trying to do our best here on the path of Buddha, Dharma. And so, yeah, just keep strong and looking forward to meet you soon. (00:43) Okay, ciao.
[Talks about meeting up and where].
“oh my goodness wow yeah it’s quite unbelievable really and thank you so much again for for sharing and letting me into all these deep stories that you’ve had you know and I really feel you in all of this you know because I know exactly what what he would do yeah exactly the techniques he would do to seduce a woman and and get her into his game and very I felt very needy and possessive and which is why I did not engage or interact with him for very long at all I felt it very important to get out of that as quickly as possible so I knew he was the person I needed to get to stay to and so yeah okay so actually we’re meeting tomorrow so I won’t get to carried away and it’s late now with messages …. I think it’s a great idea and so thank you for considering you know the safety and everything I really appreciate that so let’s meet at Mohammed tomorrow after the procession is finished I’ll go there and yeah you’ll you’ll notice me you know who I am so by by photo so I am really looking forward to continuing our conversation and yeah I think it’s really good that we meet and that we got connected it this way so thank you so much and have a good night and see you tomorrow.
“quickly about the long-life prayer I got mixed because they were setting a lot a lot of long-life prayers at the end of the day so there is actually I paid close attention and there is actually a separate one for Sangye Nyenpa which is four lines four lines in the middle where also there’s been for all the Kagu lineage holders and so there is actually one separate one for him that is the recited one time a four-liner one so I just needed to clarify that.”
6th February 2020
[Talks about where we will meet up]. Then about her private meeting with Mingyur Rinpoche:
“And he didn’t say much, actually. And I think, you know, usually for them, it’s also, I guess they need to be careful as well, you know, not say too much and just leaving it up to. He just left it up to me, you know, to decide what to do with the situation, you know. And how to how to proceed, you know, and whether to expose or these kinds of things. So I don’t know if going together, if that would make a difference. But if it’s your wish, then. He does give audiences every evening after the Monlam finishes for the day.So that’s about five o’clock around that time, so he’s been doing that every evening.
So yeah, so I don’t know how you feel about that if you would bring your statement and the photos and yeah, if you would try to do that then that’s entirely. If you feel that, then of course, you know, come on over tomorrow after the Mondlam finishes and we could meet. But yes, certainly feel into that how that would feel for you as for me anyway. He just, he did not really give much advice at such more just to take care of myself and listen to my intuition and use awareness, compassion and wisdom in dealing with the situation.
So let’s see what you decide on in that case for tomorrow you let me know other than that in terms of like yeah meeting for this bigger meeting between us which I know would you know it might take some time and would be involved in a lot of discussion then. So yes, because it’s giving public blessings, but if we were there and specifically to speak to him for a few moments alone regarding this issue, then maybe that could be an opening for that. So where you could bring the statement and the photos and yeah, so let me know how you feel about this.”
7th February 2020: encourages me to meet up with Mingyur Rinpoche and tell him about my case
[Talk about meeting up with him during public audience in evening]
“So I fully support you because it is a very serious issue and when I did mention it to him yes I did mention also that you had contacted me and that you had photos and that you actually had engaged in a one-year relation with him and I also explained about my encounter with him that was two years before and how he had approached me and and what he had suggested and so yeah let’s let’s go together and again kind of emphasize the importance of these issues being you know made aware of if something can be done and I think it’s a good idea.”
[Talks about where meeting up]
“Hi Adele, so thank you for messages again and so yeah so it is indeed a very serious matter and I thank you for for sharing everything with me that confirms everything that I experienced that time two years ago. So for the moment yeah so I shared with you now what I know, what I experienced and also I did want to help you to kind of you know maybe if you’re so to see Mingyur Rinpoche or to be there and support you and now you did get to deliver the letter, so so that’s very good.
I’m going to go into more retreat mode and like I mentioned in the pavilion I don’t really do social media a lot like I really really use it very little just when I need and so yeah I really I’m glad that if there could be something that came out of it for you like when you contacted me that you you needed to know a few things that what had happened and so I hope that my information could help you a little bit with that so and and hopefully of course that this situation will can be resolved in a way that would be a benefit to absolutely everyone involved in this and so yeah I’m just gonna be praying for that to happen….
So sending much love on your way and I really hope that again like that this would be resolved in the most most beautiful and auspicious way for absolutely everyone involved.”
14th March email to Tsultrim of Sherab Ling guesthouse re assaults by Tara on 6th and 14th March